Have you ever been in a place where you thought to yourself “I just don’t know how to overcome this?”
A place that left you sitting and questioning happiness; A place of doubt and fear.
Sure you have. We all have in one way or another. Sometimes it’s a really big situation. The kind we block out completely and try to never think about again. Other times it is smaller things that we hope to never experience again.
Have you ever done something and experienced negative consequences and said, “I’m never doing that again.” Only to find yourself doing it again.
I want you to think about it like this. We have this overflowing toolbox of things we have overcame and survived. However, when it comes to facing the next negative situation we often forget that strength to push through and repeatedly keep going in the same cycles.
“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it”
– Charles R. Swindoll
Let that last statement resignate with you…
I remember being in the second grade…yup the SECOND GRADE, when I wanted my first pair of high heels. Not because I actually liked them but because two girls in my class had pairs and I wanted nothing more than to be just like them.
I remember begging my mom to let me wear them to free cone day at Ben and Jerrys. This was a field trip we had to walk a few miles to get to as a class. I was so excited to strut my stuff. Now these weren’t grown woman high heels. They were little girl tap shoes that to us were high heels due to the little wedge. My mom never wanted me to even have these shoes, but at 8 years old I didn’t know how to take no for answer.
So, on the way back from getting our ice cream, I WAS MISSERABLE. We just got to take a break from school and get ice cream and I was miserable because my feet hurt! Then all of sudden, literally out of know where my heel BROKE! Eight years old and I experienced my first heel breaking catastrophe! Here is the kicker. When it happened, I didn’t immediately feel embarrassed, I was excited because I had a valid reason to walk bare foot. But then there it came the laughter of all the kids as they realized what had happen. There I was confused. In my head I was happy this happened, it’s what I wanted to happen. Instead I’m feeling shameful and I’m holding back little girl tears with a broke shoe and a melting ice cream cone… still about a ½ mile from our destination.
This particular moment for me is one that I look back on now and realize how it was shaping me to be strong. It was teaching me at 8 years old, that you should not dress or do something just because everyone else is doing it. At 8 years old I knew I didn’t really want to wear those heals but still insisted. And when they broke, I was happy…until somebody laughed at me. This was developing my strength for negativity.
Situations like this come up often in life. We allow ourselves to be broken down because we chose to ignore our inner strength. We chose to forget about those brutal lessons we learned along the way. Those lessons are our tools to succeed and to thrive through life.
One of the questions I get asked the most is “How do you balance life”. That answer is not a one size fits all response. However, I usually respond with life isn’t meant to be balanced. You will always have your good and bad days. The true key lies with how you interpret the situation. I’m not saying don’t have systems and do not be intentionally to create balance. I’m saying don’t beat yourself up for things not always going perfect.
Life is not happening to you, it is happening for you. Every high and low was meant to shape you and give you strength for something else. Sometimes it is as small as a heel break or getting let go from a job and sometimes it is as big as a death or a divorce. As horrific as those situations are, they build you up.
When you decide to start something new and challenging, or when you are warding of negative nancys, or you feel like you can not get out of rut. Dig into that tool box of strength and pull out one of those lessons. They are yours and and they are your strength.
Strength Longevity overcomes all negativity. You can either let your story bring you down or build you up. So before you say something is to much…before you say you “can’t” do something…before you let someone or something steal your joy, REMEMBER you have already experienced and overcame so much more. You are strong and you are equipped to handle whatever the day throws at you.